We all have projects that seem too big for us to handle. This might include work, home improvement or parenting jobs. Getting the lunch group program up and running, for example, involves communicating with teachers, principals, administrative assistants, parents, students, psychologists and more. There are times when it does not seem like it will be possible for me to get these people on the same page.
When faced with challenging and uncertain situations, it is easy to get stuck in victim mode. Sometimes it feels like our only option is to succumb to our fears and throw in the towel. We might feel compelled to point our finger at someone else and blame them for the fact that we are in the situation in the first place. While these reactions are natural, they only get us more tangled in the drama. They do not get us closer to the success we truly desire.
Taking time to reflect and plan our next steps is an effective way to move from feeling overwhelmed to empowered. It is easy to overlook the fact that time spent in quiet reflection and meditation is valuable time invested in our work. It is not possible to go directly from feeling fear to feeling inspired. We must give ourselves space to use some simple tools that will relax our mind and release the stress we are feeling. Then we become naturally receptive to inspiration that will allow us to move forward with confidence.
In simple terms, our job is to turn our attention away from fears of failure and blame and focus on what we would like to see accomplished. As we do, our mind goes to work, bringing us inspired ideas and fresh inspiration that makes everything come together with what feels like effortless grace. In the case of the lunch groups, I have received amazing support from people that have made everything go smoothly, with no strain on my part. When we are willing to take responsibility for our own attitudes and move in the direction of positive expectancy, then we are doing our job. A state of sincere optimism makes it easy and attractive for others to jump in and lend a hand.
If you are feeling overwhelmed in some area of your life, it is going to be okay. Acknowledging the way you are feeling is a great first step. From there, relax and make a list of what you would really love to see happen. You are shifting your mind away from the problem and onto the solution. Remind yourself that you are always more loved and supported than you think. Then take a few deep breaths and focus on taking one step at a time. Before you realize it, the job will be done, and you will wonder why you ever felt overwhelmed in the first place.
Edward Biagiotti is the inclusion specialist for Culver City Unified School District. For questions, comments, and ideas for future columns, send an email to EdwardBiagiotti@ccusd.org
